I spent today pulling crabgrass and other hateful weeds from the flower beds. I’m puzzled about where so many weeds come from, but they are persistent if nothing else. Also persistent are the evil sweat bees. They buzz around the ears like an annoying mosquito, looking for exposed skin. It wasn’t long before a string of grumbles and swear words tumbled from my mouth as the small but powerful bug drove its stinger into the fatty layer behind my right knee.
Once the burning eased, I laughed to myself as I thought of Dad and his “sweat bee” tale. Often, Dad told the story when we gathered for family meals. The tale had a way of popping up when Dad traveled down memory lane or when one of us complained about some injustice. We heard it several times but always laughed as if it was the first time we were hearing it. It never got old.
Dad was raised on this farm with crops and cows and six siblings. When he was 5 or 6, his dad took him and his brothers, Paul and John, to the corn field to weed the long rows. As the day got warmer, the sweat bees were plentiful. After a few stings, Dad made the mistake of whining to Grandpa. Grandpa determined it was time for a lesson. He chose a switch from the border and then dealt a few strategically located lashes across the back of Dad’s overalls. Dad said, amazingly, the sting of the sweat bees was forgotten entirely, and he went back to the job at hand, realizing he could deal with a few irritating sweat bees.
I was amid conference preparations a month or so ago. Things can be overwhelming, trying to spin all the plates at the same time. As I sat on the porch, doing a little whining, my sister looked at me and said, “Do you need the sweat bee story?”. I laughed and responded that I didn’t because I remembered it clearly and knew the lesson well.
Rubbing the burning spot on my knee, I could almost hear Dad’s voice and the laughter that accompanied his sharing of another life lesson about perspective. Back then, as we sat around the table, we didn’t know we might need the sharp pain of a sweat bee and the memory of a good family tale to remind us of all that is good and to face the job at hand, whatever that may be. Like most things, Dad knew we’d each need the “sweat bee” story at various times in our lives.













